Update: So Far, So Good
From what I can tell as a street poet who often speaks in the third person in Ottawa, at Square One Mall in Mississauga, in the PATH, Union Station, The Eaton Centre and Yorkdale Mall in Toronto, plus-plus, guys are getting it. Thousands of Canadians have seen what's going on and how to respond to it, so that's good news.
Sometime half-way through this summer, tons of guys got fooled into a form of "gay cruising", or staring at guys they don't know back and forth over and over again like some gay guys do in some parks when they want to negotiate anonymous sex in the bushes. I didn't know what it was, but then I figured out what it could be.
After the staring started, it soon accelerated to a strange form of flirting where they'd play with their hair or face, grab or show off their ass or crotch, scratch their bra straps (?) and more. That changed to forcing themselves physically close to strangers as they got more needy, creepy and aggressive. This has to be stopped.
While this was going on, men started to lose their "touch" with women in passing, including walking close to and intimidating them, sometimes carelessly, sometimes on purpose. This also lead to stalking, or following women and sometimes men on purpose. We can often tell when we're being followed or stared at and it's scary.
This drove me completely nuts. So, I chased after hundreds of guys with a bottle of Arizona Ice Tea and later a video camera in Ottawa and Toronto. I did this for 2 weeks straight 10 - 15 hours a day in Ottawa, including walking chicks across the street and even close to home from afar while making sure they were comfortable.
I did the same for 8 - 10 hours a day for about a week in Toronto. The police, RCMP, paramedics, firefighters and others were all cool with it, saying hello and occasionally flashing their lights as a shout-out while I waxed philosophically on the corner. Canadians were and are cool with it. Otherwise I would have stopped.
Besides possibly (for plausible deniability) being casually instructed to keep my cellphone on by the cops, I was (and am) allowed to operate like this in public. I told the cops to arrest me if they had to so they could keep their jobs, pay their bills and feed their kids. Just keep me in solitary in holding away from weirdos.
This is all in short-hand for ease of reading, but the bottom line is Canadian men are being emasculated and the re-masculation process is happening. While it's great to know our cops are cool with men stopping stalkers, it's even better to know that more men don't want to be needy and creepy weirdos who selfishly bother strangers.
From what I can tell, stalking is down 90% in the PATH and Eaton Centre while most people recognize and casually say hello to me. The cold weather and conservative dressing help, but many of these "stalker" guys were actually jealous of all the attention girls get from guys as opposed to merely being straight and horny pricks.
After starting out angry, I have more compassionate and conservative approaches, including asking them what they think they're selling and hoping they snap out of it before these rapists in-training end up in super-jails. Also: none of them can literally "say" what they want when asked, so it's clear they've been brainwashed.
The reason this is important is men trained to emasculate themselves by hitting on guys and picking on chicks will be unable to defend Canada from the expected hard times ahead. As more men finally start thinking about what they're doing to others, most are stopping before they soon start raping each other. Now that's good news.
As someone who usually "knows what's going on" more than most, this has been my main focus as a way of reaching out to and saving Canadians. While bad news can beat people down, good news can bring people up. Since we're being increasingly crowded in cities, the way we treat each other as strangers will be more important.
Even as I sit here, I'm often pestered by guys who want me to stare at and twitch with them. Fortunately, people notice the faux-homo hurricane around me and the worst cases scare the mild ones. NB: Real gay guys with self-respect don't bother strangers. I know. I hung out near Toronto's gaybourhood and saw the difference.
To help reinforce their masculinity and help us all get along better, I recommend more men be more conscious of how they treat the fairer sex and get more positive reactions. Two seconds of invited flirting in passing are better for the male ego than two minutes of stalking a girl who's annoyed at you. And girls want to flirt.
All it takes is men using their natural superior athletic abilities from years of playing sports to get the hell of the girls way. Once women see confident busy men don't want to give them attention, many will spazz out in frustration, show off and straighten us out. If men act conservative, women can act liberal, which is fun.
Canadians are nice, or at least that's what our reputation is, so maybe we can live up to it. As long as we remember to be nicer to each other on a regular basis, we can cut down on the micro-stress from habitually treating each other worse instead of better. Instead of learning to think people are stupid or evil, we can stop.
This isn't just a corny cliche. It's based on seeing frustrated men interact with frightened women and figuring things out as a social referee of sorts in the 21st century. It's also something that resonates with Canadians, or when I say it out loud in public, tons of men and women say hello and flirt with me everywhere I go.
I know I can talk to Canadians about this, but I'm not sure how to get them to talk to me. I get hints of "right on" with silent touches to the nose or ear and more, but I'd like to meet with more Canadians to discuss these issues since there may be nothing better for our consistent happiness than liking the people where we live.
More shortly, all the best.
wywtbi @ gmail.com
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